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how to get from talking to doing self-discipline in 9 days by marc kelley

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dedicated to all the people who have attended my self-discipline courses seminars and lectures you provided me with the desire and motivation to write this book you enabled me to create a self-discipline system that can work for anyone but more important you taught me that life s greatest pleasure lies in helping others accomplish their desires for this simple lesson i thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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table of contents part one preliminary information · important 2 · ho w to use this guidebook 5 1 getting started 7 2 poisons antidotes 1 3 action-oriented self-talk 3 4 understanding self-discipline 4 3 1 1 part two the ten day self-discipline development system · before you begin 5 5 day one fear of failure 5 6 day two fear of success 6 7 day three fear of rejection 6 8 day four fear of mediocrity 7 9 day five fear of risks 7 2 3 1 7 4 8

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table of contents part three subconscious beliefs plus five power tools · understandin g subconscious belief systems 8 10 day six al l or nothing visualization 9 11 day seven i must be perfect rewar d systems 9 12 day eight i can achieve without discomfort vitaminds 10 13 day nine i can t change relaxation 11 14 day ten something terrible will happen agoal sheet 12 9 7 7 9 3 9 part four putting it all together · congratulations 13 · th e self-discipline process 13 15 the decision stage 13 16 the preparation stage 14 17 the action stage 14 18 the completion maintenance stage 15 · abou t the author 16 5 6 7 1 7 3 0

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part one preliminary information

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important whenever and wherever i conduct self-discipline workshops seminars or classes i always hear this question can i actually improve my self-discipline in only ten days my answer yes yes yes absolutely positively definitely actually you will experience improvement in one day your improvement will be in direct proportion to how closely you follow the program in this book a partial effort will generate a partial result the exercises tips and techniques contained in this book came from many different and diverse sources this book contains the quickest and easiest methods currently available for improving self-discipline di d you notice that i did not say the best methods the best methods can take lots of time and tons of effort to understand and employ in this book you will find methods that will work fast and painless we will use a no-frills approach but i promise that you will learn more than you will need to improve your self-discipline immediately to facilitate your consumption and digestion of this material all psychobabble and jargon have been skimmed off so you re getting only the real goods in a powerful and concentrated dose 2

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trust me the system in this book will give you the insight techniques and tips to quickly improve your selfdiscipline skill you will note that i said skill that is because my experiences wit h thousands o f people have taught me that self-discipline is simply a skill that anyone can learn to use no one comes into the world with it and improving self-discipline like improving any skill is simply a matter of education and practice some of us learned self-discipline from parents friends or relatives others of us learned it through school sports the armed forces or maybe even through our own intuition unfortunately however most of us were never taught the psychology of self-discipline how it really works so we can t always use it when we need it this book will help you learn what you need to know and unlearn what you need to drop soo n you will be aware of many tools techniques and concepts to help you unravel the mystery of self-discipline you are going to be amazed at how quickly an d easily this self-disciplin e system works sound promising then let s get started 3

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how to use this guidebook first you ll jump into the chapter titled preliminary information this section is filled with information that will put your whole self to work for you before you tackle the ten-day self-discipline plan be sure that you are familiar with all the information in the preliminary information chapter mos t self-discipline failures occur because of a lack of psychological preparation the preliminary information chapter is designed to provide you with the necessary psychological preparation to make this system work next comes the ten-day program for the development of awareness and attitude then in the putting it all together section you ll go into action this system evolved over years of experimentation and research through classes workshops an d seminars i ve taught this system to people from all walks of life its overall design has a purpose each exercise technique an d lesson wa s designe d to follow th e one that precedes it one day at a time is good advice when making a behavior change do not devour this book all at once do not skip around from chapter to chapter while you don t have to complete the ten-day section in ten consecutive days don t spread it out too much such an approach while yielding some benefits will leave you with the hole rather than the donut in other words don t work against yourself prepare yourself for the ten-day program by thoroughly learning the preliminary information then the ten-day portion of the program will zoom past and you ll soon be putting self-discipline into motion i ve seen it happen time and time again so remember follow the instructions do the exercises in order 5

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1 getting started

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self-discipline in 10 days caution before you take another step meet your greatest obstacle to self-discipline meet hyde every psychological theory recognizes that we are made up of several different selves so obviously we have more than one side o f ourselves wit h which to contend moreover difficult y arises when we consider that frequently our different sides want to go in different directions inner conflict it s called sometimes one side of us wants to engage in a productive activity suc h as workin g on a report for work cleaning the kitchen o r balancing the checkbook bu t another side o f us wants to watch television and eat chocolate chip cookies or anything else to avoid doing something we consider a productive use of time in other words there is a part of you that does not want self-discipline this side of you we ll call hyde in robert lewis stevenson s classic novel dr jekyll and mr hyde we find a literary example that perfectly suits ours needs here basicall y the story is about a benevolent doctor who through chemica l experimentation o n himself brough t out th e evil side of his personality while suppressing the good side the two sides of himself ended up in a struggle for dominance that eventually destroyed them both think of the part of you that wants self-discipline as dr jekyll and the part of you that fights your attempts at self-discipline as hyde get the idea do not however think of your hyde side as an enemy think instead of hyde a s th e part of you that is creative fun-loving an d pleasure-seeking the child side of yourself you do not want to do battle with hyde but you want to recruit hyde as a partner who supports your self-discipline efforts 8

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1 getting started this jekyll/hyde approach is one of the more important concepts to understand in your attempts to develop selfdiscipline time and time again participants in my workshops seminars and courses have reaffirmed that this concept understanding it and applying it has been instrumental in their self-discipline successes so you will begin by learning about how your personal hyde operates hyde believes if i begin a structured organized journey toward any chosen goal i ll become a slave to routine i ll lose my freedom i ll lose my sense of fun i ll drown in a sea of responsibilities i ll put too much pressure on myself we all have a rebellious side to our personalities that resists any form of structure we bring this rebellious seed from our childhood one of the first words a child learns to say emphatically is no the child we once were still lives inside us and every child battles authority hyde the name we will call your inner childlike rebel battles any form of authority even if the authority is you hyde subconsciously says nobody can tell me what to do not even me 9

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self-discipline in 10 days you will soon learn how your personal hyde operates to sabotage your self-discipline efforts you will also learn how to counteract this self-inflicted negative influence bu t beware you will experience resistance each step of the way from hyde in fact becaus e i consider your understanding of hyde s o important the first thing we re going to do is learn how hyde will try to block your efforts at implementing the system laid out in this book on your voyage toward developing self-discipline you ll encounter torpedoes from several sources outside yourself but your most difficult oppositio n will come from within indeed i n your efforts to develop self-discipline initially you will be your own worst enemy remember a part of you does not want self-discipline we all have a hyde side the rebellious comfort-seeking non-ambitious part of our personality this is a condition of being human so let this serve as a word of warning do not allow hyde to block your efforts you ll soon have the know-how necessary to transform hyde from a pesky saboteur into a loyal assistant in doing so you will be doubling the inner resources you need for self-discipline and most important you will enjoy self-discipline rather than experience it as a constant struggle against yourself as we ve already established we re going to call the part of you that does not want self-discipline hyde 10-

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1 getting started hyde not only knows all your weaknesses fears and insecurities but also knows how to use them against you this devious little imp inside you plans to employ every method of manipulation available to keep you from following the program laid out in this book why hyde knows that once you develop self-discipline you ll be your own boss that means curtains for hyde s reign you ll no longer be a slave to the self-defeating traits that keep you from transforming you r desires an d ideas int o action s an d accomplishments rest assured that hyde will childishly resist cooperation so your best strategy is to familiarize yourself with hyde s tactics most of which operate on a subconscious level where you are not aware of them but by familiarizing yourself with hyde s method of operation you will soon have hyde working with you rather than against you 11

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self-discipline in 10 days the next chapter deals with hyde s five favorite techniques for poisoning your efforts even though all of these brands of poison share certain ingredients you ll be wise to consider each separately this way you ll be less susceptible to any of them 12

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2 poisons antidotes

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